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KKWK Special Episode 3: Diesha Phelix: Lost her son Orlando DeWayne Jr. to gun violence in West Memphis ark May 5 2023

September 11, 2023 Khyia Ward Episode 0
KKWK Special Episode 3: Diesha Phelix: Lost her son Orlando DeWayne Jr. to gun violence in West Memphis ark May 5 2023
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KKWK Special Episode 3: Diesha Phelix: Lost her son Orlando DeWayne Jr. to gun violence in West Memphis ark May 5 2023
Sep 11, 2023 Episode 0
Khyia Ward

Today, we sit down with Miss Diesha, a brave mother who has faced unimaginable loss, shedding light on the real-life impact of gun violence. We kick off the conversation with a light-hearted moment of cocktail-making and a playful game of sentence-finishing. But as we journey deeper into our discussion, we learn about the profound pain and resilience that defines her story. 

Miss Diesha speaks candidly about the loss of her son, sharing how her family is grappling with his untimely departure. She takes us through the heart-wrenching details - from her daughter's breakdown upon seeing a handprint in the mirror to her son seeking solace in his deceased brother's room. We also discuss the circumstances of her son's death and the consequent feelings of isolation from her community. The conversation takes a sobering turn as we delve into the topic of fake social media posts about her son's death, adding a troubling layer to her narrative.

As we navigate through the profound grief, we also address the more personal aspects of Miss Diesha's life. We explore her thoughts on dating, her stance on the LGBTQ+ community, and her unique perspective on relationships. Despite the tragic loss, Miss Diesha is a beacon of strength and resilience, demonstrating the power of coping and healing. It's a conversation that promises to touch your heart, challenge your perspectives, and inspire you with the undying spirit of a mother. So, join us as we navigate this poignant journey with Miss Diesha.

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Today, we sit down with Miss Diesha, a brave mother who has faced unimaginable loss, shedding light on the real-life impact of gun violence. We kick off the conversation with a light-hearted moment of cocktail-making and a playful game of sentence-finishing. But as we journey deeper into our discussion, we learn about the profound pain and resilience that defines her story. 

Miss Diesha speaks candidly about the loss of her son, sharing how her family is grappling with his untimely departure. She takes us through the heart-wrenching details - from her daughter's breakdown upon seeing a handprint in the mirror to her son seeking solace in his deceased brother's room. We also discuss the circumstances of her son's death and the consequent feelings of isolation from her community. The conversation takes a sobering turn as we delve into the topic of fake social media posts about her son's death, adding a troubling layer to her narrative.

As we navigate through the profound grief, we also address the more personal aspects of Miss Diesha's life. We explore her thoughts on dating, her stance on the LGBTQ+ community, and her unique perspective on relationships. Despite the tragic loss, Miss Diesha is a beacon of strength and resilience, demonstrating the power of coping and healing. It's a conversation that promises to touch your heart, challenge your perspectives, and inspire you with the undying spirit of a mother. So, join us as we navigate this poignant journey with Miss Diesha.

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Speaker 2:

You Welcome to cocktails and come over kaya, where we sit and we make cocktails and we open up about our personal life, where we're going through depression, prison, lost a loved one, and so on. The list goes on. Today, as you all seen the first video. This video is dedicated to a land old, and I have pleasure sitting with a land old mom, miss Dyesha, and miss Dacia lost her son this year, spend four months Four months. She lost her son this year due to gun violence. So, before we get into this interview, first, of course, we start off making the cocktails, and today we're going to be making strawberry lemonade, and so let's grab your place, get you some ice.

Speaker 2:

You're doing okay you take your Hennessy. This the Hennessy show you take that out. Okay, Nice, okay. So on your tab you got your strawberry mix. This right here. This is a strawberry wrong. I take this, you know don't do that at the end you don't top it out with Hennessy. So first you're gonna grab your strawberry mix, so you just gonna throw your strawberry mix around in your glass.

Speaker 2:

Okay, then you're gonna take your room strawberry wrong this Uh-huh, and I saw for the ones who, because I don't have the bottles, it would be a small video to your right, so you can see how to make it and you pull in your strawberry wrong.

Speaker 2:

You can use some to do it's kind of similar to the strawberry Hennessy, but we just top it off. So this is lemonade, so lemonade, just pull how much you want to pull in, like it's wrong, well you know. And then you will top it off With your Hennessy, the Hennessy shot. See, I gave you a stir so you can stir it up. You just stir it up. You need to take some straws. Hold up just a second, you guys, I give you a spin. I don't know how to do it. I think I used straws and drop my lemonade. Okay, you taste this. Okay. So before we get into this interview, you guys, we're gonna start off with a game. I'm not ready to say my pants. So this first game is basically easy. All it is is finish the sentence. I'm gonna come over the sentence. You're gonna finish the race, got it? So first sentence is where have you been blank? Just finish, add on to the sentence. Okay. So six is good when it's blank.

Speaker 3:

Well, we use with somebody you love good Three.

Speaker 2:

Why am I blank?

Speaker 3:

Oh why am I country?

Speaker 2:

Four can we just blank get along by? Love is Conditional. Okay, I'm loving these answers. Six men not. Say it again man not Passionate enough. Okay, seven, how is that blank? Possible okay, hey, hell is too hot to go there. Now, my man, these two get it together. Get it together, man Ten, how do we meet? Okay, 11, I am as strong as blank.

Speaker 3:

I am strong as I can be 12.

Speaker 2:

Can you tell blank?

Speaker 3:

Can you tell that I'm trying to be strong?

Speaker 2:

yes, I can tell 13. I am in love blank with my children 14. Who can I call on? God, of course, between love has love has been difficult, 16 men with big personality my baby father is my baby father.

Speaker 3:

Theirs are the fathers, okay 18 last night I cried myself to sleep 19.

Speaker 2:

Why is it so?

Speaker 3:

why is it so hard to so hard to move on?

Speaker 2:

okay, the last 120 cocktails and come over with kaya is phenomenal thank you. Okay, that is the end of that game. So we're gonna jump into the interview, and every interview I start off. I ask my guests seven questions, which basically first, is your pronouns, where you from, your occupation, marriage status, zodiac sign and, if you have kids, how many. So your pronouns, okay, where you from, were you originally from?

Speaker 3:

but well, I was born in California but I I only been there when I, when we move here, move to West Memphis, arkansas, when I turn two. So yeah, I'm from. I just say I from West Memphis. Okay, your occupation. I work from home, remotely and part-time.

Speaker 2:

Substitute teacher your marriage status sink single, single. So I have three, okay, so I got to see you guys at the beginning of the video these videos about Orlando and so we're gonna start a video I episode off. So first, how you feeling today, I'm okay.

Speaker 3:

Today, I'm okay again. The week was that took. It's been a bad week. Some one week I might be good next. You know the days be up and down, but today I've been okay so most days is pretty hard.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, how, since you, since the loss of your son, how has your kids, the other two kids, how they holding up?

Speaker 3:

my daughter. She has her days. She had an episode the other day. She was getting out to shower and she takes hot shower, so of course the one, the mirrors, you know frog from here, and it was a handprint on it and when she came in there she was going back I'm not going to my bathroom. She's like cuz I'm scared, like what's scared, of what she was like, cuz when I got shot there was a handprint. I was like that. You know, my dear son, let know what's. Then she started crying so I was like why ain't it stated to make it cry, you know? But yeah, she have her days. My son, he just he liked to talk about him a lot honestly. He had been really been showing his emotions to me. He stayed little stuff, though he now has his brother's room so he loved to sleep in there. He like this is wrong now. So he like you know he don't say his wrong, he says me and my brother he sleeps in there, but he's been.

Speaker 3:

He hasn't been showing me his emotions like that when it first happened. He did when he's not sleeping in his room and stuff, but he ain't been really showing his emotions like this.

Speaker 2:

He's written got an emotional person, so most boys have most boys in the entire know. Yeah, take a life of them open up, right? So can you tell us a little bit about your son Orlando? What kind of kid was?

Speaker 3:

he funny, most definitely funny. Humble, sweet, respectful. Give you shirt off his bag, love it, especially family. He love family and he loves his uncles and aunties. I mean they, they were like his, they to hit to them, they were like his, they were his they, he was their child. So yeah, he's just real, real humble. That's not number one thing.

Speaker 2:

He was a real humble respect for child so most times when deafening is involved, gun violence was a child, mother, father, someone's taken away. A lot of times we blame myself, do you?

Speaker 3:

blame yourself I did mainly because about about a year or two my son had been wanting to move away from Arkansas and I it just never really been the time for me, you know, being want to get away. He didn't want to. You know. He's seen how bad West Memphis had got, you know, even though he still had family and stuff there.

Speaker 3:

But he just wants to get away and start over you know, I told him soon, very soon, I was trying way to my daughter graduated, which would be next year, but not next year, but she graduated on 2025. But I blame myself because I feel like I should have got him away from there sooner and he wouldn't have even been at that black party.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so how do you, how do you feel about your community?

Speaker 3:

I feel there's nothing there, they're not supported. Now, when my son has, I had a lot of people, a lot of parishionale, a lot of churches that I will say that not from the city I didn't know, no, not from the mayor, nothing, nothing. It's just I don't feel like it was supported. He did. They supported me like they should have, because they, basically, to me, allowed it, because they let them get a permit to have the block party and they got our wages.

Speaker 2:

OK, so because I keep saying about the block party, so yeah basically, I want you to tell us what you know or what you heard happen, your side of what you want to tell you. You don't have to go into detail about it, just tell you know what I'm saying, what, what happened or what do you know.

Speaker 3:

Well, ok, the night that it happened I was out this was a field and I was out Celebrating singles in my up, having drinks and food with friends, and his dad called me. This was about because I had got off the computer. I was trying to name and I got off the computer. I had about six and I was like I'm not with them at measuring. If they had called me, you know, like this was about two o'clock, if they had called me, I should. They said I'm just going to shut up, like what. I just talked to them like 45 minutes ago because his, my my youngest son's father had called me and told me that they were shooting over at the block party. So I called Orlando and Orlando said Mom, they just shoot in the air. Remind you, it's a lot of people out there with guns. This is nighttime. I'm like I just I just talked to him, though.

Speaker 2:

So this was this in West Memphis.

Speaker 3:

This is in West Memphis, in Foxwood, foxwood, and when I tried to, when I hung up the phone for his dad, I got a call that he was asking this phone and I just knew. Then he was like no, I ain't saying that a man shot and he did, and for him to like tell me that over phone. I was like I just talked to them, though, 45 minutes ago, because I asked him then to go home and of course you know that's where all his family's from Foxwood and he wanted to stay over there for the block party my main, one of my students, they act the food and I guess what.

Speaker 3:

Five minutes after that I was told it was different groups on the street. I mean it was like maybe four hundred five people out by, a hundred people out there and I was told there was different groups on that street just shooting, no, everybody's just. Somebody said they just started shooting. Somebody said that that over there and I say I'm hit or whatever, and up the people were trying to say that he, he was, he was having a serious. When they found him his eyes were broken in the back of the head, then I had a dark pull over on so nobody knew he was shot in this dark outside.

Speaker 3:

This is like this block party still going on. It's 10, 10, 10, 30. And I just rushed to the hospital. I was on my way over there and they was, and now he just left, he just took them in the in the ambulance and I hopped on in the state and so have not got right behind the ambulance that he was in and followed him to the hospital. So we got there. You know I told them what was about. The hour later they came in there and they had told me that he had passed.

Speaker 2:

So we do you think that his, his there was, as it was on accident, or it was somebody trying to get him or out for him?

Speaker 3:

To be honest with you, I don't know, because the police at home side. So if some home side I mean somebody, potentially did, I'm not sure because there was so many people out there, you don't know who was there, I mean it was his cousin's video shoot.

Speaker 3:

A lot of people don't like his cousin because he's made a big and so of course if they can't get to him they're gonna get somebody else. I do feel that it was attention like a sleek type thing, because it was all much commotion going on and I feel like somebody seeing him and just all he. Let me get him. He running it, you know so and.

Speaker 2:

I saw you share the Facebook status saying I don't too much remember what it was saying, but I see they had your son named in the saying that he was dead and someone else was dead and so on. How? Is that a fake profile? It's a fake profile.

Speaker 3:

I don't know who's behind it, but I screen shot it and I sent it to the police, but they didn't respond to me. But yeah, the name that they name in that post was friends over Lendos, so that you know it's already passed or whatever. But yeah it's a fake page. We don't know who's behind it.

Speaker 2:

You know I do feel like the police are being handed your son case, Not doing nothing like most of the time. I mean the first three weeks. Maybe they added, like they was just doing what?

Speaker 3:

they could to try to find out. They had had a couple of people in jail, but they had. I guess they didn't have anything on to hold them because it was a certain names fooling around. They could be possible suspects and they they stopped me. They said they had none. So but now I'm like, well, yeah, I got Scott Cams sitting right there and he told me this was about about a month ago now.

Speaker 3:

They was pulling something else to try to see if they can lighten it up so they could see all you could see on the on the ground. It's like gun fire just popping because it was so dark, but nothing. They, they haven't told me that the time I last two times that I called, they hadn't did. I said they got nothing new. So that's why I'm going to the news channel again. I don't know, you know, seeing, I did the man hunt Monday off. I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. I did the man hunt Monday off on channel three. I went back up there and I did that, you know, to shine some light on the situation because I don't feel like they're doing anything. And they tried to get a statement from them and I guess they told them that they don't have any new leads or nothing like that. I don't just feel like they doing anything, because for one, I just really feel like it's their fault that to me that I was not here because they didn't take the proper procedures.

Speaker 2:

They take to, so long it took so long they always do, and the police was called the police was called they take so fucking long to get those people to the hospital. Absolutely. It's like they just sit there and let them, let them just die, you know yeah.

Speaker 3:

But even before Orlando had got shot, I have several, several witnesses said they called the police because the party was getting too rally. It was it was too much. They had already been shooting beforehand before that. No police never showed up, nobody came to shut it down, nothing. They gave him permit now, but I'm pretty sure they didn't get him a permit for that big of a crowd over there.

Speaker 3:

But the police was called way before Orlando, you know, got killed, and they never showed up until somebody was shot. The way they handled him, everybody was telling me that it wasn't right and basically just treating my baby like he was nothing. I feel like they took so long and I feel like he could have survived when they had him in the back of the ambulance. I'm not even sure if he was still alive Again then. I know they was, you know, doing the procedures and pumping. I could see him through the window or whatever, but I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 2:

I'm pretty sure he still feel like a bad dream, mike, it was just the edge of the table. It's still a phrase that ain't number four months you have.

Speaker 3:

You know what it feels like to me Like he's overseas, like he's in the arm and I just can't talk to him right now, like he's on an extended vacation or something.

Speaker 2:

So, you still, because you haven't accepted? Have you accepted? You know what I'm saying the fact that he's on you still.

Speaker 3:

I accepted it, but it doesn't feel normal. It don't feel normal because I'm used to him calling me every day, bugging me. I would take that now over anything. It's hard because I mean he was a big. That was my first born son. He was a big help to me. He was a big help to me and just getting his sisters and brothers in line sometimes and, yeah, I missed it a lot.

Speaker 2:

What's your most about your son?

Speaker 3:

Him making us laugh Ten of jokes. I miss his hugs, his tight, tight hugs. If you ask anybody, anybody tell you that Lennar gave the best hugs, the best hugs. Or you know, if you tell you something, he always I'm not asking you was I okay? Well, if I, straight before he leaves, and stuff like that, but I mostly miss.

Speaker 3:

It's crazy, though, because that morning, when I got ready to leave, I went subbing and when he was at home, he was at home, he had just came in from Atlanta and he was laying on the couch. And I had walked out, though, and I looked back and it's just crazy that I don't do this on a normal basis, like in the morning time, anywhere. I'm usually trying to get out the door. I went back and I hugged him. I only he was laying on the couch and he jumped. I was like boy. I had kissed him on his cheek I always kiss him, but it was out of the norm for me in the morning time. Like he was just laying and I hugged him. He just came in. I didn't see him when he came in because it was like three o'clock in the morning. I hugged him and he jumped and I kissed him like I don't know, like that, and I was like boy, I had kissed you on your mom.

Speaker 3:

And when I got off of work there even to get on the computer, for I was doing training for a work, for home job, and he was leaving out the door to the block part and I said, okay, y'all be safe. He was him and his own cousin. Y'all be safe. And that was when that wasn't the last time I talked to him. The last time I talked to him was when I called him the night the first time before I got the news an hour later that he was gone. You know they had been shot him. And that's when I talked to him. He was like mama, I'm good, I'm straight, and that was it.

Speaker 2:

Okay, how has this changed?

Speaker 3:

It's changed me a lot, because life to me is not normal anymore, like I'd be trying to go out and just have some type of normalcy about you know life, because that's what I was doing. You know, either go out with my friends or something. But I feel guilty even going out sometimes, because he can't do that, he's not here, he can't do it, no more. And everybody's telling me you know, don't feel guilty, like this will let no one have one and I know he would, because I know he wouldn't want me to have to live my life. It just, you know my life, feel. The best word I can explain is this about life it don't feel right anymore. I'm used to three children. You know he was 20.

Speaker 2:

He was going to still miss him.

Speaker 3:

He's leaning on me.

Speaker 2:

Have you tried reaching out to other mothers in the same you know, experience the same thing you experienced.

Speaker 3:

I've been talking to a couple of other mothers, especially two of his friends that passed. Talking to them he had an ex-girlfriend that had passed. Her boyfriend had shot and killed her in West Memphis. I've been talking to his mom. I'm actually in a not to miss a thing, but a group that's in West.

Speaker 2:

Memphis. I was going to ask you if they have you thought about like counseling or a type of group you know talking.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, I'm in a group that's in West Memphis. We meet every second Tuesday of the month. I also have a counselor that I've been talking to and she seems to think that I'm doing good because she's like I was like. You know, I have to keep it together, like, but if people just don't know it, like when I go home and I lay down, it's a totally different thing. So that's how it is.

Speaker 2:

You know I haven't ever lost a child, you know. But I do know the pain of losing somebody that you love. You know, knowing they're not going to be here, you like, when they happen to have, everybody reach out to family, everybody come to the house, bring your food, feel love, and then, as soon as the funeral over with and you have to go back to reality, this one is like everybody fade away, disappear, go back to their lives, and you stuck there to face all this by yourself.

Speaker 2:

So I know that feeling of you, know just not being able to see and hear that voice, maybe in the car ride and it hits. You may hear some, see some that remind you of them and you know you go into this deep thought and, like most of the time, like you said, being at home, this really was, you know it's yeah, and I've been trying to move so I can start something you know, fresh somewhere new.

Speaker 3:

When that first happened, I couldn't. I couldn't listen to music. Like I'm a music fanatic and I love music, like I just couldn't listen to music because everything just made me sad. I had stopped cooking and everything. But my daughter, he was like my little kids, they could eat out every day, they would. He wanted me to cook all the time. So you know, it just didn't feel right, because I'm always used to him sending me recipes and stuff, like his sending me recipes like well, can you cook this tonight? And that's a lot of another thing that I miss about and stuff.

Speaker 2:

but yeah, so Okay, what do you think needs to happen to help prevent gun violence?

Speaker 3:

Honestly, I don't know, because it doesn't matter how much we talk to these boys. Do we blue in our face? A lot of stuff, I honestly feel like a lot of this music has a strong influence on these children.

Speaker 3:

It is when he was younger. I just, you know, I tried to stop him from listening to certain things and stuff like that. But you know, when it's your name with you, it's gonna do what they, you know, want to do sometimes. And but this music and these videos and all this it has a lot of influence on these kids and I know it's not gonna go away. So at this point I don't really know what could stop it, because you could talk to you blue in your face sometimes. These kids will not listen.

Speaker 2:

Honestly, I think they need to take these fucking guns away.

Speaker 3:

Of course.

Speaker 2:

Take all these motherfucking guns like far as I don't even give a damn about being like people being licensed, because we have people who steal their guns. Go and people can't break in cars. Steal it like Memphis is bad. They break in the cars every day.

Speaker 3:

You know, what.

Speaker 2:

I'm saying I have some many friends cars being broken every day. They stealing their shit taking parts at the car.

Speaker 3:

It's just bad If somebody stole my car. I had a key or soul and they I want to say it was smiling from Memphis they came over there and just casing the apartments and stuff, cause my car ended up over here in Memphis somewhere and they told it out, told it up.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it ain't anything about my shit. I'm a baby, from a loom to a baby tracking. As soon as they motherfucking disappear, I'm on their ass before they get to taking my shit apart. Hell, no, you motherfucking crazy, right. So how do you continue being strong and not going insane because you?

Speaker 3:

know what.

Speaker 2:

Something like this can make a person lose a man. I have saw people lose a man.

Speaker 3:

You know what I do. I try to keep busy and then you know the times that I like I'm having down plays when I have my time that.

Speaker 3:

I'm emotional. I don't know. I mean, when I tell you so many people say to me they feel like I'm real strong, I don't know how I'm doing. I honestly don't, because if anybody know me, know how I feel about my kids. So it's like I can't say that this was expected, cause I never think like that. But I try to keep him closer to me, you know, to try to prevent this. But I don't really know how I'm making this on days, but I'm doing it.

Speaker 2:

That's good, that's funny. You have to be God, give his most best to his strongest people and I'm gonna tell you to stop you know what?

Speaker 2:

I'm saying Blame yourself because it's not your fault, even though how your son lived as well. We all you know what I'm saying. We have days you know what I'm saying we never know when. When it is made well, there's bad deaths, dying sleep. We all have to leave here and it's messed up how he left her and how people are leaving. You know what I'm saying. They're due to gun violence. It's very sad, but you shouldn't blame yourself because it's not your fault. It doesn't matter what you thought that you could have done or should have done it. It doesn't. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3:

It doesn't matter what those yeah cause. If it was, if it was going to happen like that. It was going to happen like that. But I still think like well, you know, I couldn't have right, you know, and people in my service tell me that's normal yeah it is, it's very normal.

Speaker 3:

Feel like that, but I, like I said I tried to permit stuff like this, cause, when I tell you when he be away from the house, I could not get no sleep at all you know, so ever, cause there's so much going on in this room. Even when I'm younger to kids, I'm so strict on them. Now it's just I hate to be that way, but I can't go through that again.

Speaker 2:

You know, and that's why I live with Memphis, not to say Memphis even any better, because it's nice. It's just bigger. With Memphis it's like it's getting bad. Well, it's bad. You know what I'm saying? It's small, everybody know each other. It's like friends killing friends, family killing family, and it's just sad and scary. It's scary as hell, you know. So this is the reason I live and I ain't trying to come she ready to leave Memphis cause. Memphis ain't no better, it ain't no better.

Speaker 2:

That's why I don't do shit, I don't part, I take my ass to work, go home. Not even clubbing honey. I used to club. I club so much in my 20s baby it just ain't safe to know where she ripped the beyonders, not even at your house. People died in shot at home, you know what I'm saying. So it's just, baby, we have to stay.

Speaker 2:

Prayed up, prayed up by her, because like I said, you just never know when is your last time. Who out there she's wishing bad on you or trying to, you know what? I'm saying that's why I reached out to you. You know what I'm saying. Because, like I said, when I meet watching your live, you had me so emotional and how you were saying like you feel like nobody is helping or doing their job as far as the mayor, the police and this most my job my job.

Speaker 2:

We have police officers come and sit every day and come and eat it out in my job and just listen to the stories like how many gun violence like I think this year is what 25,000, well, last time I checked in.

Speaker 2:

I was in 25,000 deaths due to gun violence this year. So they were saying like 181 deaths a day. You know what I'm saying. And then I hear, like I said, and listen to the police, guys come and talk about all these like men and women who get killed every day and like how they just throw it over. You know what I'm saying. Like you know, because it's happening so much. So many people are dying, so it's like they everybody's trying to get. You know what I'm saying. All the families trying to get answers and justice for that. But it's like the police don't really want to be bought because they got so much, I guess so much they didn't want so many deaths a day and it's sad, it's hell. That's why I saw you on them.

Speaker 2:

Most of them, they ain't gonna do shit. It's up to you. Know what I'm saying. You're gonna have to get up and keep your son name alive. Post you know what I'm saying, post his picture, post his story, post any platform you would get on and talk about your baby. You know what I'm saying. Let the world know what happened to him.

Speaker 2:

Speak on it, don't shut it down. You know what I'm saying. You just have to go with it because, depending on police officer males and the mufflers, they ain't gonna do shit, still ain't doing shit. You know what I'm saying? They just don't give you a run around, keep on giving you the story, saying shit back and back. So I say it's best for you to do what you're doing. I do really appreciate you coming on my show opening up. You know what I'm saying about your son. I also. I really want to, as far as that, I wanna wrap that segment up about you know I feel like you open, open up enough. You said enough and I don't wanna go too deep in there. I want you up here crying.

Speaker 2:

I don't wanna be crying, you know. So we're gonna move on to. We'll come back on it, but we're gonna move on to a little bit personal about you. Okay, Are you dating anyone?

Speaker 3:

Yes.

Speaker 2:

How is?

Speaker 3:

that it's going on, it's going on. You don't see, if you still date a boy Cause he's, you ain't gotta tell me.

Speaker 2:

I gotta make it in honey, honey. What is your type of man?

Speaker 3:

It's some crazy asterisk cause. I have a friend posted on that. I was like it's crazy cause I want a country thug going, church going. Can I have all that wrapped up in one Please, because? I don't want no, lame or nothing, but you know sometimes the flames work on this. Sometimes what we mean is something different, because what?

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we go for is don't be what we need.

Speaker 3:

But I updated some of the lame ones. But you know what? To be honest, some of them cheat too, so I know, Of course.

Speaker 2:

Of course them dogs run.

Speaker 3:

Yes.

Speaker 2:

They're all dirty. So, like you say, country thug, church, church going, okay. So do you see yourself having more? Kids. No no. Even if you got involved with somebody and you got married.

Speaker 3:

No, no no, no, cause I'm gonna be four in the ADC If I want. I can't have anymore children.

Speaker 1:

So if I give them somebody, they could have their own.

Speaker 3:

And we just gonna come together as a big family Cause, even if I didn't, you wanna adopt.

Speaker 2:

I mean I would accept it yeah, if you don't, you'll get a hood and want it to be out, me, me pushing some out now.

Speaker 3:

I'm good on that.

Speaker 2:

Why? Why do you think most mean she?

Speaker 3:

is security security. Family issues? Not, they ain't some of them never been properly loved? They said so. They don't know how to love a treat, nobody so.

Speaker 2:

There's all living things. Yeah, okay, how do you feel about the LGBTQ plus community?

Speaker 3:

I welcome it. I have, I have two trans Cousins. My friend, my best friend, you know she's, I Know I've never just been a Tractor to a woman, like just to be. Now, you know, not not necessarily to say to shut that down. So you know, I don't know, I won't say no.

Speaker 2:

See, I'm me saying no, no.

Speaker 3:

He'll not never have.

Speaker 2:

It was a time where I just gave up on me and I was out of bullshit. I last time, and the meeting stood, you know, saying she looked like a man and baby.

Speaker 2:

We ended up falling in love and one day it happened to another one hundred, but it be crazy. Thank you, girl. They want to be man, want to be master of the dentist. They want want you to treat them like a man, want to be mad and all this, but then they so, because still women, so they so emotional. Yeah, they feel in there. One I had, you know I'm saying she was flip flop baby. One minute she was family. One minute she was hard. She's drunk all the time.

Speaker 2:

Got drunk and want to fight all the same thing. She's just gonna hit me. I'm gonna wanna whether me too, we both. Right you know saying so it was crazy like, but if I won with who I was with. Now I think I will try to date. Another study, was it was? I liked it, I enjoyed it, I did so I'm too. I ain't. I ain't gonna say I never. Never see cuz on everything I said, I never.

Speaker 3:

Right, have done it all in there. While I said we was that, I ain't gonna say no, never, cuz I, you know, never know. So.

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Cocktails and Open Conversations About Loss
Blaming Myself for My Son's Death
Coping With Loss and Gun Violence
Dating, Family, and LGBTQ+ Perspectives
Repetitive Speech